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Tsukuyomi
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Hey all, it’s been awhile since I have’ve actually begun an interest on here. Ideally it doesn’t devolve into arguments or anger or such a thing. In a manner this is certainly a post of interest, plus in another way it’s an apology.
My friends have long since chose it’s the perfect time for me personally to be internet dating once more, and even though i am okay with that
being a nerd I felt like it can probably be for the greatest to get somebody who at least stocks SOME of the affairs i like for the reason that office. Really don’t require full geek, but at least some might possibly be good. We already bring strange looks for appreciating the things I see from others around me. I really don’t want some of those visitors to end up being the people I worry about/spend lots of time with. But we try to be versatile since I have know the nerdy female are allegedly a rare commodity. I never discussed this in niche dating apps for iphone their mind, but my pals evidently decided this also for whatever reason, up to the point where one flat-out told me: ”Dude, talking as one of united states who married a ’normal’ woman, I WANT you to end up with a nerdy girl!”
That sort of shocked myself and made me personally feel harmful to the guy’s wife, that’s really nice (all are. They can be additionally all enormously diligent whenever the large amount of you get somewhere like comical shop as well as decide to tag along and that I try to make they a point saying thanks to all of them for enduring our shenanigans once they’re plainly rather really bored.) It is not which they you should not love eachother, as I know they are doing, but In my opinion the guy knows the way I experience how some of their lives that he actually loves cannot be shared with their spouse.
Today, all this mentioned, the question of ratio always pops up. Dudes to women, you understand the drill. They constantly appears like some one some other person understands fulfilled one, or a pal of a friend knows one or sees all of them the amount of time. But none of us KNOW any individual or have satisfied anyone that matches the bill.
(please be aware that I study what I’ve created over also it appears like I’m objectifying the people at issue very. Not my personal intention and I also apologize. Not being misogynistic or hateful, only hoping to get the idea across.)
Recently but I ran into a fresh co-worker who I was assigned with instruction so when the lady and I have to speaking about activities we manage outside operate we admitted that i will be a nerd and whatnot along with her feedback ended up being: ”oh! I was previously a nerd also, but I happened to be bullied really worst and so I kinda quit getting one.”
Now, I understand that. No problem along with it. I recall becoming bullied at school being alone for many the amount of time considering it. However it provided me with some delicacies for idea when I considered just what she mentioned more. I guess I made many presumptions, but I really don’t feel they are too far-fetched. Sooner this aspect involved me:
Girls/women which are/were into nerdy circumstances. well, circumstances must have or carry out suck worse for them than they are doing for nerdy men.
I’m guessing a nerdy female in school would have problems acquiring together with other babes because she’s nerdy, and also at BEST she gets uncertainty from guys for being fake, at WORST they being scary. The most effective case scenario try a smaller group of company. At worst (and perhaps more inclined depending on in which and/or whenever you experienced their schooling) it may bring meant little to no friends whatsoever.
that have to simply. blow. Flat-out be terrible and awful. and also the worst role would be that right here Im shopping for someone who experience that. What sort of an awful individual was we to desire that on another person simply therefore I posses someone to remove to a movie and food following get home and enjoy webpage 2 with? It makes myself feel like a jerk. I did not posses many pals experiencing school, but damn.
Anyway. are I totally off-base with this specific? It is simply a said I’d considering everything I keep in mind from my personal ages at school and just how, to an extent, culture still works. Performs this however accidentally ladies exactly who see ’nerdy’ products? Could it be as terrible as I’m convinced they probably was? The girls I do know exactly who communicate my passion posses so far agreed that certainly, it had been poor, and indeed, i am kinda on-point by what i am thinking. But what about everybody else? Any head? Stories? Am we correct or incorrect becoming feeling like a jerk for attempting to day someone who offers my personal hobbies?